Comments on: Body Language: Arm-Cross http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:32:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dipak http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/comment-page-1/#comment-187904 Dipak Wed, 15 Jul 2009 20:16:29 +0000 http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/#comment-187904 I believe that in some cultures. specially among South Asians such as Indians, Pakistanis, etc. it is common to cross arms when one is listening to respected adults, parents,teachers or a supervisor. it is meant to show respect and obedience. However, this can have a completely opposite effect in North America as it will be perceived as putting up barrier against what is being said or in worst case as not being attentive. Do you agree? Has this cultural differnce being noticed at work place and employers/teachers made aware of it? I believe that in some cultures. specially among South Asians such as Indians, Pakistanis, etc. it is common to cross arms when one is listening to respected adults, parents,teachers or a supervisor. it is meant to show respect and obedience. However, this can have a completely opposite effect in North America as it will be perceived as putting up barrier against what is being said or in worst case as not being attentive. Do you agree? Has this cultural differnce being noticed at work place and employers/teachers made aware of it?

]]> By: bryan http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/comment-page-1/#comment-181865 bryan Fri, 29 May 2009 22:14:11 +0000 http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/#comment-181865 Like Marco, i too have a girl that i like that does this. She will often go out of her way to talk with me. We work in the same building and we will often have 30min conversations during work time. If she is sitting down she never crosses her arms but when standing she does. She shows alot of other signs of interest with eye contact, smileing, and playing with her hair. Ive just always been thrown off when she crosses her arms. She doesnt seem to do it in a defensive way but it is still confusing. Is this a bad thing? Like Marco, i too have a girl that i like that does this. She will often go out of her way to talk with me. We work in the same building and we will often have 30min conversations during work time. If she is sitting down she never crosses her arms but when standing she does. She shows alot of other signs of interest with eye contact, smileing, and playing with her hair. Ive just always been thrown off when she crosses her arms. She doesnt seem to do it in a defensive way but it is still confusing. Is this a bad thing?

]]> By: marco http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/comment-page-1/#comment-167601 marco Sun, 29 Mar 2009 16:34:19 +0000 http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/#comment-167601 I think you nailed it, she does have issues with her breasts being small, although she doesnt strike me as being shy. Also I dont think she doesnt like me because we were friends and all, but maybe she doesnt like me that way. The other thing she did while we were speaking was she crossed her legs. I think you nailed it, she does have issues with her breasts being small, although she doesnt strike me as being shy. Also I dont think she doesnt like me because we were friends and all, but maybe she doesnt like me that way. The other thing she did while we were speaking was she crossed her legs.

]]> By: Mihaela Lica http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/comment-page-1/#comment-166701 Mihaela Lica Fri, 27 Mar 2009 23:43:35 +0000 http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/#comment-166701 Maybe she is just shy? :) You cannot read body language out of a context - you should tell me more about what she does when she crosses her arms. Some girls are simply frustrated about the size of their breasts and they cross arms to hide them. Maybe she is just shy? :) You cannot read body language out of a context – you should tell me more about what she does when she crosses her arms. Some girls are simply frustrated about the size of their breasts and they cross arms to hide them.

]]> By: marco http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/comment-page-1/#comment-166604 marco Fri, 27 Mar 2009 18:46:51 +0000 http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/#comment-166604 Hi, I was wondering about the comment that women cross their arms in front of men they dont like, maybe its just wishful thinking but cant it be misinterpreted as sexual tension or something, because theres this girl I like that does it, but you never know with women right? Just a thought. Hi, I was wondering about the comment that women cross their arms in front of men they dont like, maybe its just wishful thinking but cant it be misinterpreted as sexual tension or something, because theres this girl I like that does it, but you never know with women right? Just a thought.

]]> By: Mihaela Lica http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/comment-page-1/#comment-72506 Mihaela Lica Fri, 07 Nov 2008 12:35:24 +0000 http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/#comment-72506 Hi Ben, just let me know what you need and I'll see what I can do for you. Mig Hi Ben,

just let me know what you need and I’ll see what I can do for you.

Mig

]]> By: Ben Morgan http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/comment-page-1/#comment-72468 Ben Morgan Fri, 07 Nov 2008 00:40:38 +0000 http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/#comment-72468 Hell, my name is Ben, and I am a high school student doing a research project on body language for my psychology class. You seem to know quite a lot about this area, is there any way you could help me along? Hell, my name is Ben, and I am a high school student doing a research project on body language for my psychology class. You seem to know quite a lot about this area, is there any way you could help me along?

]]> By: Mihaela Lica http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/comment-page-1/#comment-55564 Mihaela Lica Thu, 26 Jun 2008 14:13:45 +0000 http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/#comment-55564 Well, Heather, there is a reason for people to freak about this, especially in jobs that need impeccable body-language. I don't know where you work, but if your boss is ready to fire you for such a thing, you should probably be more careful. I'd fire one of my people too for such disregard of PR norms, I hope you understand why. When you work in a public position you have to be careful about these things. Well, Heather, there is a reason for people to freak about this, especially in jobs that need impeccable body-language. I don’t know where you work, but if your boss is ready to fire you for such a thing, you should probably be more careful. I’d fire one of my people too for such disregard of PR norms, I hope you understand why. When you work in a public position you have to be careful about these things.

]]> By: Heather http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/comment-page-1/#comment-55562 Heather Thu, 26 Jun 2008 13:32:13 +0000 http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/#comment-55562 I think the arm crossed thing is bogus. I have been doing it since I was little and people have always told me not to do it. Yesterday, I did at work to lean on myself, I was waiting on someone and my boss told me he would fire me if I did it again. He's a german and freaks if I have my hands in my pockets too! My grandfather was german also and would freak about the hands in the pockets thing too! Anyway this job is so stupid, I can't stand around even for a second without him in my businees telling me to do something, he wants me to be busy working all the time, I 'll be so glad in 6 weeks when I can quit. I think the arm crossed thing is bogus. I have been doing it since I was little and people have always told me not to do it. Yesterday, I did at work to lean on myself, I was waiting on someone and my boss told me he would fire me if I did it again. He’s a german and freaks if I have my hands in my pockets too! My grandfather was german also and would freak about the hands in the pockets thing too! Anyway this job is so stupid, I can’t stand around even for a second without him in my businees telling me to do something, he wants me to be busy working all the time, I ‘ll be so glad in 6 weeks when I can quit.

]]> By: Mihaela Lica http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/comment-page-1/#comment-2434 Mihaela Lica Mon, 05 Mar 2007 14:51:44 +0000 http://www.ewriting.pamil-visions.com/2007/02/27/body-language-arm-cross/#comment-2434 Thank you Erica for underlining the most important aspect of the article. I have to tell you though that even the loose arm-cross is a self-comforting gesture. It might be interpreted as a border between you and the rest of the world. It's self-reassuring and calming, relaxing if you want. It’s not a bad thing to cross your arms, but there are situations when this simple gesture might send out a negative message. My point: better avoid crossing your arms in a tensed circumstance (as mentioned in the article: business meetings, job interviews, encounters with the media, etc.) Thank you Erica for underlining the most important aspect of the article. I have to tell you though that even the loose arm-cross is a self-comforting gesture. It might be interpreted as a border between you and the rest of the world. It’s self-reassuring and calming, relaxing if you want. It’s not a bad thing to cross your arms, but there are situations when this simple gesture might send out a negative message.

My point: better avoid crossing your arms in a tensed circumstance (as mentioned in the article: business meetings, job interviews, encounters with the media, etc.)

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