As you already know, each of my entries answers a specific question from you, my readers, or simply keeps you informed about… the latest happenings in the Pamil Visions universe.
Some of you are probably already aware of the latest upgrade to the “About Mig and This Blog” page: “25 Things You Didn’t Know About Me” (…and you probably don’t even want to find out!). For those of you who aren’t, here’s the catch: there is a point here (number 6) saying:
I read a lot. I live to read. I read online, offline… Heck, I even read body language and I am pretty good at it (Yes, I was trained for this during my four years at the Public Relations Directorate of the Romanian MoD. What’s your point?)
That point has generated one strong reaction: really?
All righty then. Here I go! Today I start (what might as well transform into a free eBook – you never know) the When Your Words Say Nothing Your Body Tells Me More odyssey. Hurray! And this is the pilot episode. At the end of each future episode you’ll get a book review, a website review or other similar analysis related to this issue. And speaking of books, you are welcome to check out my Amazon Store (some nice books related to this topic are listed there!)
Before the verbal communication people were still able to “talk” in a language they understood quite easily: body language. This language is still an important part of non-verbal communication and we use it and interpret it quite often, at times without even knowing.
As a man you probably ask yourself “how does she know” especially when you’ve done no obvious mistake. Your body tells her everything. She doesn’t need words. Some women say “I feel it”. They probably do, because there is also a chemical connection between you two. But she mainly knows it because your body sends out the messages. And she is able to read them, even if she is not aware of that fact. Hence the “feeling”.
In business you often get the feeling that something is not right when you talk to another business partner. This is not a “feeling”. Your subliminal self is able to read signs that your conscious self ignores. You already read and understand body language at a subconscious level. It’s time to bring those feelings into your daily routine. And with my help you’ll become so good at it that people will really believe you are a mind reader.
Our First Step on the Path – Adam’s-apple-jump
There is a quite popular belief insinuating that solely men have Adam’s apples. If you ever thought that, it’s time for you to reconsider! Both women and men have Adam’s apples.
In men they are just bigger. Like the cartilages from the years and the nose, the cartilage known as Adam’s apple has no significant importance for the human body, or for our health. But because in men this tissue is more visible than in women, they might be in trouble when they get too nervous and the Adam’s apple starts jumping up and down like crazy.
So if you have a large Adam’s apple and your wife starts suddenly accusing you of dishonesty, don’t blame it on her “paranoia”! Blame it on your Adam’s apple. This cartilage might jump uncontrollably when you are nervous. What factors trigger such a negative body reaction? Hard to say, but one thing is sure: they are all negative causes. From emotional anxiety to embarrassment and fear, anything is possible.
So next time you suspect your discussion partner of lying, why don’t you take a look at his Adam’s apple? There are situations when words cannot say as much as the body language.
Yes, you are so right, but it is sometimes not so easy to “read” in strangers though… and some people are quite good at hiding their true feelings.Or sometimes we just don’t want to believe what we feel…
Mihaela Lica says
If they are trained to “hide” their feelings it’s not easy. But common people are not even aware of the messages they send out with a simple gesture. To be able to read people we have to learn to see them. Not only to look at them, but to really see them. You know what I mean? Believe me: it works. My ability of reading body language “set me free” after just one year and a half of marriage. It’s a bitter truth, but this is how I knew it… Then all I needed was the proof. You see, people have difficulties in admitting they tell a lie. They know you know, but they go on with their ramblings, making you feel low and disrespected. If there’s something I really dislike, that’s dishonesty. “Just give me the truth. I can handle it. I am a big girl. Lie to me and I’ll reconsider if I want to have you around.” A simple formula, don’t you think?
I give it to you: it’s an annoying habit to watch people so closely and “invade” their privacy when they don’t even know it. But it proves pretty useful in business. I know exactly what a client feels about a certain subject and I take steps to fix the problem (if any).
Thanks, i would like to read more about how to know more about people.
Mihaela Lica says
Welcome to my blog, Leo. Thank you for your comment. I’ll do my best to provide useful information on this topic in the future as well. 🙂